Intergenerational Healing

“What is intergenerational healing?” The first time I encountered it was when I was trying to choose a HUCAP program offered for the DTI employees. I googled it and I really got curious so I signed up. But, I didn’t make it as first priority. I was really just curious about going back to the past so you can understand yourself more.

Honestly, I wanted to join the program because I thought this is a good way where I can understand the struggles of other people. I want to understand them better. If the things in the past really affects the future… So, I thought this is not about me. The moment I learned that I was part of this program, I wanted to back out because I thought I wanted the Yoga program better (I’ve always wanted to try yoga) but I also wanted to try something out of the usual… Finally, I decided to join the intergen and until now I can’t stop telling everyone about it.

A beautiful and perfect place for reflection or our famous term "hanapin ang sarili" in Rizal

A beautiful and perfect place for reflection or our famous term “hanapin ang sarili” in Rizal

It may sound cliché but, it really changed me in a very positive way. Yes, I can understand other people better now but I have understood myself more. SELF LOVE should always comes first.

Self love. Self love. Self love.

It may sound selfish but then again if you love yourself more, you can give more love to others. You will not be afraid to be alone because you are comfortable with yourself. You don’t always seek for other’s approval because you are tough enough to say “I love myself.”

The perfect reflection place after letting it all go.  I swear one of the best feelings in the world.

The perfect reflection place after letting it all go. I swear one of the best feelings in the world.

The facilitators of the program are from Reintegration For Care And Wholeness Foundation Inc. (RCWFI). The team is headed by Ms. Harriett Hormillosa. We are enrolled in the “Reparenting the child within” program. I never thought that going back to the “little you” can actually give a really different perspective in one’s life.

Ms. Harriet during one of our discussions

Ms. Harriet during one of our discussions

Because of intergen, I learned to say goodbye. Goodbye to my old self, goodbye to that little Kit who was so afraid of life. A scared girl who always thought that she is not good enough… that she will never be enough.

I have cried buckets of tears but I have never cried the hagulgol way. And, yes it happened here. I remember that on our first cry-fest activity my head hurts because I was trying to avoid pain. The facilitators told us that ganyan talaga kapag pinipigilan ang iyak, sumasakit ang ulo! I still don’t want to let go and I keep on telling myself that I AM OKAY. I am already okay so I don’t have to let go anything. 🙂 Yes, I am that stubborn! 🙂 But, slowly as hours passed I started to feel it all.

No, Intergen is not just about crying. It is recognizing that you have felt pain, you acknowledge that you were hurt and you were angry. You will tell to yourself all those things. You will feel all the pain again until you realize that you don’t want it anymore and you are ready to let it go because you want to live a new life.

Group 4 after the life-changing activity. I thank God for them :)

Group 4 after the life-changing activity. I thank God for them 🙂

I am not big on opening myself with strangers but the intergen taught me how. After the seminar, they are not strangers anymore but, new found family. People who doesn’t know everything about you but still recognizes your pain. They’ve seen a deeper part of you that you always hide from others but you know that they’ll never judge you because you’ve also seen a deeper part of them. You do not feel pity for them but respect. Because despite all the pain, depression, anger, sadness, and loneliness, they still choose to live and be strong.

The past may have hurt you but there will come a time in your life wherein you will feel that you don’t want these negativity to be included in your future, anymore. The seminar will not erase all the painful past in a snap of the fingers but it will be the start of a new you. You may have relapses while you’re doing the process but by surrounding yourself with optimistic people will make the journey easier.

My Group 4 loves

My Group 4 loves

We're all smiles now

We’re all smiles now

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The Intergen Group

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So here’s to a new and more optimistic you! 🙂

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— I know that I should have written about this the moment the seminar finished but time wouldn’t let me. So let me just make this, one of my year-end posts and a time to finally share this new blog in public.–

So there. 🙂

Mystery Manila: Rebecca’s Room – our own horror-comedy movie

Mystery Manila

Earlier this year, I saw some people posting photos about Mystery Manila (a live escape game room.) I stumbled upon it online and really got interested. My work friends and I planned to try this, but we don’t have any definite plans on when we really want to try it.

Until, our office is scheduled to have an Organizational Culture. They requested me to inquire in Mystery Manila’s rooms in Jupiter, Makati but the game only allow a maximum of six players per room. We are 23 individuals in the office, so Mystery Manila is axed in our Org Culture’s options :(.

But, Sir Vic, –our office dad wanted to try it too. Sabi niya, ituloy daw namin kahit kami-kami lang, kaya.. GO! So, Airiz, Joanna, and Sir Vic were my team mates for Rebecca’s Room. Hazel, also one of our officemates, should be part of team but she’s pregnant so pass muna siya.

Airiz, Jo, and Sir Vic reading the posts of former players in the freedom wall. Actually, we're also looking for tips but we can't find any... :(

Airiz, Jo, and Sir Vic reading the posts of former players in the freedom wall. Actually, we’re also looking for tips but we can’t find any… 😦

When we entered the room, I was nervous because I may try to hide it but I am really a scaredy-cat. My imagination is absurd whenever I watch horror movies so I really thought there will be more mananakot inside.

Jo has solved the first code  in a matter of minutes. Good thing we have Jo –you know, she’s Sherlock’s girlfriend (trying to be a good friend here).

We’ve read Rebecca’s diary to find more clues, we tried to look in her boxes, but we have to open some locks to get more clues. Our game maker <– not sure if it’s the right term but kunwari na lang hunger games said that we can ask him for clues but we are too proud to ask for clues and thought that we can handle it on our own.

We are roaming around the small room to look for more clues until we thought we already found the code to open the lock of the small drawer –there’s a loud and scary scream from the speaker that got us screaming. Jo was so frustrated at us because we screamed like kids, we told her that it’s part of the game (then I discovered that she was furious because medyo natumba siya dahil sa gulat niya sa mga sigaw namin, Sorry JO!)

When Sir Vic and Airiz is trying to unlock the code of the small cabinet, Jo and I tried to observe Rebecca’s room and we got interested in her wall display (told yah, this is horror-comedy). We even laughed at Rebecca’s diary entry (sorry!!!!)

We gave up on the first cabinet so we tried opening the second and bigger one –but the problem is we don’t know how to use this kind of lock :

HOW DO YOU USE THIS? UGH! haha

HOW DO YOU USE THIS? UGH! haha

Our time is running out, our game maker advised us that we really cannot open that second lock if we haven’t opened the first one (hello? oo nga naman!)

He finally gave us the clue and then even helped us open the second lock. He also asked for back up because he himself cannot open it. haha.

And that freakin’ second cabinet was opened. We are so ready to meet that little scary child but we just stood there waiting for her to come out. We are so scared and at the same time we’re laughing so hard — our imagination has no limit. I remember I was just standing and holding one of Rebecca’s furniture for back up –in case that child will come to me… I swear I’m gonna punch her (loljk).

Then, Kuya game maker said we can enter inside… We looked at him and said Dyaaaan??!!!  What’s inside that hole? Why do we need to crawl? hindi pa ba siya lalabas?

We are so afraid to get inside because of our imaginations? What if the little girl is already there waiting for us?

Sir Vic suddenly blurted out “sige na pumasok na kayo??…” “TAKOT AKO SA BATA!!!”  *SIR! apat anak mo? pano ka naging takot sa bata?* Then, Airiz was the first one to enter the eskinita and said.. claustrophobic ako. *girl, kelan pa?*

We are laughing out loud until the time is up (60 mins to solve the mystery.) So sad we haven’t seen the little kid (lol), but we’re willing to come back –to finish and finally solve the mystery.

We were really wondering on how do we look on the CCTV footages… ’cause for us we really look like we’re in a horror-comedy movie.

This is one of my unforgettable experiences.

of course, we'll not leave w/o Airiz' doodles on their wall. :)

of course, we’ll not leave w/o Airiz’ doodles. 🙂

'Cause we ALMOST! Almost solved the mystery. but almost is never enough

‘Cause we ALMOST! Almost solved the mystery. but almost is never enough

My great team mates! me, airiz, jo, and Sir Vic.

My great team mates! me, airiz, jo, and Sir Vic. We almost got it! 60% na raw kami so push namin ang paghawak sa mystery solved! :p

24/10/2014