Re-aligning my perspective

Exactly two years ago, my perspective in life has changed. If there is a best activity that I have been part of in my current job, I will always think of – the Intergenerational Healing Seminar. It has changed me in ways that I couldn’t even imagine.

Before, I was an optimistic person but life happened and I turned into a person who built walls so that people would not see the cracks and pains. So, that no one can say that I am not good enough because I can do it myself. I stopped trusting new people. The full-of-sunshine girl who always thought that everyone has “kindness” in them – changed. I stopped trying to understand everyone. If you’re bad to me then okay… Maybe, you are really just a horrible person. No ifs, buts, and whys. I don’t care about your struggles because I have my own to solve.

Then, Intergen happened. I revisited the child in me. I allowed the little me to take over for a bit. I allowed myself to feel. To understand. To cry. To cry harder. To let go. To cry again and again and again. To trust again. To welcome Him again in my life. To apologize for being so away because I was busy trying to build a career (or what I thought was a career). I allowed myself to be a little kid and just pour my heart out – (and hear this) to strangers. I also learned to listen. Listen to stories of strangers that are now
I consider as my family. There so many stories that were so painful that I started to questioned mine. Na minsan ang arte ko lang pala, hindi naman pala malala yun pinag-iinarte ko. But, what I learned in Intergen is…All pains are valid. And, you should allow yourself to heal. Even if it happened during your childhood, it is still (or [sometimes the] most) important .

I can go on and on and on and there are still times that I go back to zero. But, I believe that I can get through this.

I will never ever stop caring because (sometimes) it might be the only way to change someone’s life.

I wanna share this mantra that I have for myself after the seminar and I hope this can also inspire you.

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YOU are (I am)  worthy and good enough.

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To the kids who do not get things on their first try

You are probably sick of people telling you that “it’s okay” you can try again another time. You just smile and let them see that you are holding it up but deep inside,
a little part of you died. They say that it does not matter if you get it on the first
or even on the 100th try but I tell you – I do understand how much it hurts when you can’t get it on the first, second, or third.

Everyone means well and tell you to try again, try harder… But, only few of us understand that it hurts. It hurts like hell. That you’d feel so stupid and you’d question yourself every now and then. Until, you start to believe that maybe you really don’t know anything anymore. Then you cry, you hate, you isolate yourself, then you cry again.

Until one day, you’ll get tired of being so weak. You try to stand up again. You try and then fail and then you cry and when you get tired… You try again.

Then finally, you did it.

You were so happy but you miss your old self that you wanted to hug him/her and say
“You did great, old self.”

So, if ever you are the kid who does not get it on the first try. I know, it is not okay. Go cry and pity yourself until you get tired. When you get tired, that is when you stand up again and fight.

No matter how tired you are, fight again. Because, most of the time – the only person who can help yourself is you with a big of help from up above or whoever you are believing into.

You can fall down and take a pause on your journey but never ever give up.

Fight! 🙂

Ode to my love

I miss you in every way possible.
I miss how I was never aware of logic and rules.
It was just you and me, unaware of the whole world.
I was so sure of you until people tell me that you
are more than what I think of.
I even shoved you away but every night you keep coming back.
But, I keep pushing you away.
I always tell myself that you can wait and thought that you grew tired.
Until, I was the one who was chasing you.
Then my brain told me that maybe you were not meant for me
but my heart allots a large space for you.
Because eversince, of all the things it was unsure of —
it is very sure of you.
You may not be as perfect as they are but your heart knows
that the thing you keep pushing away is your wholebeing.
It is not your happy place because it is your home.
Maybe, all you need is another try.
Try again.
Because it can wait until there’s nothing left to wait for
just as how you say you can write until there’s nothing left to write for.

50 questions

I found this while I’m browsing random links on Facebook. I’ve been following berlin-art parasites, The Artidote, and betsin-artparasites so I’m really not sure where exactly did I get this. I just miss doing something like this so here I am answering random 50 questions. I just feel the need to do this because these coming weeks will be the busiest work week i’ll have. Good luck to me.

1: What would you name your future daughter?

January with the nickname “Jan.” But it is weird to name her January if she will not be born on that month. Other option will be Cassidy nickname “Sid”.

2: Do you miss anyone?

Yes. Maybe even someone i don’t exactly know.

3: What if I told you that you were pretty?

On a bad day, i’ll say “I don’t believe you.” but on my current mood, I’ll say thanks.

4: Ever been told “it’s not you, it’s me”?

Nope.

5: What are you looking forward to in the next week?

Traveling for work.

6: Did you go out or stay in last night?

Stay in. Duh!

7: How late did you stay up last night?

kind of late that I’m so sleepy this morning.

8: Honestly, has anyone seen you in your underwear in the past 3 months?

Nope.

9: What were you doing at 12:30 this afternoon?

Multi-tasking. Packing my clothes for this week’s events, checking Facebook and Twitter, and checking if the rice is already cooked for lunch.

10: Have you ever told somebody you loved them and not actually meant it?

Nope.

11: Could you go for the rest of your life without drinking alcohol?

Yes.

12: Have you pretended to like someone?

Yes.

13: Could you go the rest of your life without smoking a cigarette?

Yes. I don’t smoke so definitely, yes.

14: Is there one person in your life that can always make you smile?

Many. 🙂

15: Is it hard for you to get over someone?

I think so.

16: Think back five months ago, were you single?

I’m single forever. haha! And I don’t have a problem with that (yet. lol).

17: Have you ever cried from being so mad?

Yes!

18: Hold hands with anyone this week?

Yes, with my friend.

19: Did your last kiss take place in/on a bed?

Nope.

20: Who did you last see in person?

My family. To say good night.

21: What is the last thing you said out lot?

F*ck. :))

22: Have you kissed three or more people in one night?

Nope.

23: Have you ever been to Paris?

Nobut looking forward to live there even for just a few months. #dreamitgirl

24: Are you good at hiding your feelings?

Yes. but lately, no.

25: Do you use chap stick?

before.

26: Who did you last share a bed with?

No one.

27: Are you listening to music right now?

Surprisingly, no.

28: What is something you currently want right now?

vacation and money.

29: Were your last three kisses from the same person?

I don’t have any kisses. haha

30: How is your heart lately?

Sad, tired, but trying to be strong.

31: Do you wear the hood on your hoodie?

yes

32: When was the last time a member of the opposite sex hugged you?

I can’t even remember unless you count my brother.

33: What do people call you?

Kit. Mamu. Kittiful. Kitty.

34: Have you ever wanted to tell someone something but didn’t?

yes.

35: Are there any stressful situations in your life?

many.

36: What are you listening to right now?

Sound of my brother’s aircon. i just turned off mine.

37: What is wrong with you right now?

Everything.

38: Love really is a beautiful thing huh?

Yeah.

39: Do you make wishes at 11:11?

Not anymore.

40: What is on your wrists right now?

Nothing.

41: Are you single/taken/heartbroken/confused/waiting for the unexpected?

single

42: Where did you get the shirt/sweatshirt you’re wearing?

thrift shop! 🙂

43: Have you ever regretted kissing someone?

i haven’t even kissed someone. haha

44: Have you hugged someone within the last week?

yes? i don’t remember.

45: Have you kissed anyone in the last five days?

nope.

46: What were you doing at midnight last night?

trying to sleep

47: Do you miss the way things were six months ago?

no.

48: Would you rather sleep with someone else or alone?

ALONE! 🙂

49: Have you ever been to New York?

Nope. but I want to be there right now. Can you take me there? 🙂

50: Think of the last person who said I love you, do you think they meant it?

Yeah. because they’re my family. 🙂

How I gave up, giving up, and slowly learning not to give up

Have you ever felt that “I know what I want, I think I already figured out the things I really want to do then suddenly negative clouds came up in the air and be like maybe-I-am-not-really-good-at-this-so-better-try-other-options?” For a shorter explanation, (here we go again) what if I am not good enough?

Everyday whenever I’m busy at work, on a meeting, or while on a break, there’s this question of what if I can’t achieve anything because I have minimal skills. It is so funny to think that back then, I was so sure of everything. I thought that I have enough and good skills before I enter the real world. I remember Anthony’s little speech in “That thing called tadhana” that made me want to hug him and say “I understand, I feel you… I feel you” with matching ridiculous crying. If you haven’t figured it out yet, he said “hindi pala ako magaling, marunong lang.”

Honestly, I always feel that way but at this point in time, I don’t even feel that “marunong lang” ako. Sometimes, I ask myself “marunong ba talaga ako? Baka naman feeling ko lang ‘yun.” It is so wrong to compare yourself to others but (hey universe!) I’m human so let me be…

Whenever I read other people’s masterpieces, I can’t help but question myself. I don’t have a wide vocabulary. I can’t save my life by writing that 10-page blahblah report because I can’t  even finish a 3-page article, or I don’t even have a perfect grammar. Super wow! Insecurities all over this post.

I already gave up few years ago but I learned to stand up again. Then, I am here again. Having withdrawals from my positive self. This time it is more of “maybe I will never be good enough.” I don’t want to blame it on quarter life crisis but it’s all I can think of, aside from really having a tough time coping up with the real world. It is really really hard that I don’t want to leave my bed. (Because my bed is the best thing in the world.)

I don’t know really know the point of this post but I just realized that even if I have been broken so many times, (even if I don’t want to yet) I need to face all my fears, I need to face the truth, I need to fight for my bigger dreams, I have to embrace my insecurities so that I can grow, so I can be strong again.

“Allow yourself to breakdown. You can fall on your knees, you can lie on the floor all you want but make sure that you’ll stand up again. Because you are a warrior. It takes a lot of courage to accept that you are weak. So, don’t ever think that you are weakling.

I may not be the right person to teach positivity but I realized that this post’s purpose is to inspire myself to go back and try again. Do it. write again. make something. fail. fail better. learn. try. write. write until your hands are tired. write until your brains start to drain. Because, this is what you want kiddo. Be tough! Work it girl!

Or maybe this post will be for someone who is also experiencing my current situation. Whoever (wherever) you are, let us not give up. (I hope we can) Yes, we can do this. Move over, negativity.

#Latenightthoughts

Remember that night when everything felt perfect? When there are bright lights and full blast music. When you can feel great energy on the stage despite the warm weather, when the crowd seems so happy – when it felt like nothing can go wrong.
Then in the sea of unfamiliar faces, I looked at you and saw that you are lonely. I felt your pain and that eagerness to breakfree. I wish I was there when you felt lost.
Maybe, if we’re in another scenario, we’re having hot choco drinks in my favorite cafe after a tiring gig. You’d pour your heart out, release all your inhibitions – you’d tell me all your fears… Everything, everything that scares you.
But, this is reality. Our worlds are different. We’re a million miles away. It’s summer here and I can’t keep track on what season you’re in. Different timezones, different lives.
It may sound cliche but maybe in another universe, I’m part of your crowd.  In another lifetime, we’re bestfriends or even lovers.
I hope that I can have a future with you in it. Maybe in that future, I am not broken as I am today. And then on that time, you already found yourself. We can finally start embracing our reality.